Let me preface this blog thoughts out loud by sharing that I have been seeing the “Don’t be mad” textagrams and thought it prudent to share about a blaming complex about the public school education systems within, on, around Native communities.
As an educator I have heard and seen most everything a person could hear when it comes to the education system and Indigenous youth. In fact, this morning, with the most recent post my FN online friends have been tweeting about regarding some toolwho believes our ceremonies somehow makes kids think of suicide. Somedays I really think Wtf and man.. some people’s kids.
Yeah, so here’s my morning bleck about some public school ish I’ve been percolating my thoughts about as a result of a recent event. At that time the parent was barking about how racist a school is and how their family is subjected to numerous attacks as Natives. My blog thoughts out loud… a public school is NOT responsible for what is essentially their job as a parent. So yeah… don’t be mad when the truth comes out.
Don’t be mad when your kid comes home with low grades and is told they have to go to summer school which may impede on your plans to sleep in and not worry about getting them up early to the bus and fed before school.
Instead, be mad that someone made you think it was okay to blame the schools for YOUR responsibility to help your kid with reading and achievement at home.
Don’t be mad when you receive a letter from the public school your child(ren) attends informing you, that you need to come in at 8:00 am because school starts at 8:30 am and they need to meet BEFORE school and NOT after school at 3:00 pm which is more convenient for you.
Be mad that you made the decision to go to bingo last night and hang out with friends and family to smoke a doobie, or better yet booze, because that’s the fun thing to do.
Don’t be mad or blame anyone when someone’s kid has been the recipient of awards or benefits of a school system because you chose not to help your kid achieve by not trying to be excited about school for them.
Be mad that you choose to have fun and think of yourself before you think of your child(ren) and won’t seek to home school.
Be mad at the fact that you were taught it was okay to slack off on being a parent and allowed someone else to pick up that responsibility.
Be mad that you won’t spend time just hanging out reading and talking with your child about school because that’s what home school encourages too.
Don’t be mad at any of these above mentioned because in the end, YOU failed your child(ren) and it’s not okay to bash a teacher. Not to mention a Native teacher, who spends selfless time and hours working with YOUR child on YOUR responsibility.
Lastly, as an Indigenous mother, I say, be mad that someone, somewhere in this world made you think and believe that tribal culture should be taught in a public school. Because culture is “supposed” to be taught there?
Being mad at something or someone does not change the fact that a public school is NOT just for Natives. We are NOT supposed to learn about being Native in a public school and it is EVERY (regardless of race/creed/ethnicity) parents job AND responsibility to take care of their child. You don’t get a pass because someone else has chosen to raise your responsibilities. If anything, you get a Go to Jail card for making the selfish choices as a parent.
If I sound mad, you’re right, I am. But let me end with this, if we believe that a public school system should be teaching our culture, then the system has accomplished everything it set out to do all in the name of colonialism.
Culture is taught at home and although culturally relevant curriculum was created to help in the education process, it is NOT the E end all solution to your child’s success as a student and their health and well being, that starts at home.